What happens to healthy children between 6 years and adolescence?
What must a child be able to do to go to school?
They should have an interest in stories, letters, and numbers and be able to write and draw. Your child should be able to form relationships with adults and with peers. They should be able to travel to school alone, which can also be important for making contact with other children. In the first few years of school, they learn reading, writing, and arithmetic. Remember that children vary greatly in all areas of development. Children of the same age can differ by up to three years in their developmental age. In addition, the same child does not develop equally in all areas. This means that every child has strengths and weaknesses, just like adults.
A lot changes in adolescence, starting from the age of 10 to 12. Young people learn to work more independently and assume responsibility. But their bodies also change, and young people don't always feel good about it. It can take some time for them to feel comfortable in their bodies.
Young people tend to break away from their parents and look for contact with their peers. They want to be accepted by other young people, and if they are not, they can be very upset. Young people also want to distance themselves from their parents by trying new things and testing their boundaries. This can include alcohol, smoking, and drugs. Despite all their striving for independence and keenness to experiment, young people still depend on the support and company of their parents and other caregivers. It is important to treat them more as partners, but still to express your opinion as parents.
Perhaps we can say here "as much letting go as possible, as much attention and closeness as needed".
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